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What's the best curriculum for ... ?
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Photo by William Iven on Unsplash

It's the topic I see most often in all the ministry groups I'm a part of ...

"What's the best curriculum for ... ?"

Whether children, adults or anything in between, the question of curriculum in church programming is a constant. And while I might do some curriculum reviews and recommendations in future posts, I won't be answering that particular question today.

I have found that while which curriculum you choose matters, what matters even more is how you use your curriculum. 

I was writing and editing curriculum before I knew I was writing and editing curriculum. I’m far from an expert, but I’ve learned a few things along the way.

I was one of the writers of a very popular confirmation curriculum a few years back. When I would meet people who had used this curriculum, they were so excited to tell me how it had been helpful to them, but they often felt they needed to apologize when they mentioned a way they had adapted, changed, edited or supplemented the curriculum. 

My response? I would be offended if they didn’t change something about the curriculum!

While those of us who write and publish curriculum (hopefully) do the hard work of creating materials that are accessible, theologically robust and engaging, we're creating materials meant to be used for more contexts than we can count! Your church may look similar to the one down the street, but there are hundreds of variables that ensure no two churches are the same. 

Any curriculum that comes through your hands intact is a curriculum not being best utilized. So why might you adapt even the best curriculum?

  1. Theology/Denomination: While all Christian churches do share a focus on Jesus, there are still reasons we have different churches. Our core beliefs and the ways we live them out are different, and it's important that the experiences you are offering and the things you are teaching embody the uniqueness of your particular tradition. 
  2. Church Size or Group Size: Numbers aren't everything, but they are an essential consideration when planning programming for your group. There's no one size fits all curriculum when it comes to any variable, but numbers really do affect which curriculum you choose and how you adapt it. From material needs to activities, ensure that your curriculum is adapted appropriately for the size of group you are leading.
  3. Geography: If you're in a downtown setting, you may not have much outdoor open space to use. If you're in a rural setting, you may have fewer resources available near your church for things like field trips or guest leaders. In addition, metaphors can fall flat if they're not familiar to your local culture. An object lesson from agriculture will not hit home as well with city kids; a group of suburbanites may not connect with the experience of riding public transportation. Ensure that the illustrations offered by curriculum will connect with your people.
  4. Church Culture: What is your community like? What do they need at this moment in time? This is the area I work most closely with churches on in coaching and consulting, because it determines everything else about how you approach church programming. As you select curriculum, consider what your goals are. How does this meet people where they are now, and how does it propel them toward the church's vision and the culture you're building? 

You know your people better than any curriculum writer (and good curriculum writers know that!). The curriculum I write just for my youth is not curriculum I would write for publication. I have middle schoolers and high schoolers who can watch a video and just have a deep theological conversation. Other groups thrive more with hands-on activities.

Know your group and trust what you know. That will play a part in both curriculum choice and adaptation once you’ve chosen something.

So, what curriculum are you adapting this year and how? Share in the comments!

The Three Greatest Challenges: BUSTH Distinguished Alumni 2017
2017 Boston University School of Theology Distinguished Alumni, Sept. 14, 2017

2017 Boston University School of Theology Distinguished Alumni, Sept. 14, 2017

This year, I was given an incredible honor. I was nominated and selected as Boston University School of Theology's Distinguished Alumna in the category of Emerging Leader. 

Any chance to return to the School of Theology is one I treasure, to walk halls and see faces that shaped me more than I even know yet, and this opportunity was even more special as an honoree. In fact, I almost didn't make it, as the weekend prior to Alumni Week the entire state of Florida was hit by Hurricane Irma. Thanks be to God (and JetBlue), I was able to only delay my trip by a couple of days and still participated in a few of the Distinguished Alumni events. 

One of those events was a panel presentation, at which each of us was asked to speak for a few minutes on "The Three Greatest Challenges We are Facing in the Next Ten Years." (No big deal - I can handle that in 8 minutes.)

It was inspiring to hear each of my fellow honorees share their ideas on this topic, and I wanted to share my own perspective here. Whether or not these are the greatest challenges we are facing is certainly arguable, but these are the greatest challenges I see that I might have some insight into. I would love to continue the conversation in the comments ...

The Three Greatest Challenges of the Next Ten Years
Boston University School of Theology Distinguished Alumni Panel
September 14, 2017

(I will always and forever talk with my hands.)

(I will always and forever talk with my hands.)

I really want to take seriously what we need to look at in the next decade specifically, and especially issues that are relevant to the work I have done over the last few years. There are far more significant issues facing our country and our world, and while with the right next steps many of our global social crises could be solved in short time, I do not believe we will do so within a decade. 

Issues like climate change, the prison industrial complex, institutionalized racism, human trafficking … the list goes on. These issues are not likely solved in ten years or less, and I’ll be honest - I’m not the best person to speak on responses to any of these. Instead, I want to look closely at three issues facing us in the next 10 years, as well as three key responses that, if we will act on them, will better place us, especially in the US, to face our even greater challenges long-term.

The first challenge we face is extremism and partisanship. This challenge frames a lot of the other challenges we face. We all lived through this last election cycle, and while the issues are not new, they are more in the open than ever. Coming of age in the Clinton and Bush years, and moving into adulthood in the Bush and Obama years, I have to tell you has been an interesting experience. 

The concept of identity has never been so at the forefront of our society - we have more options than ever about who we want to be and become, and yet I find that my peers and I have found it difficult to take advantage of that option when the extremes drown out everything else - everything is either/or, in or out, never both, never and, and never somewhere in between. I doubt I need to further explore this topic as, as I said before, we all lived through the last election cycle and are living in our current political situation.

The second greatest challenge is on a more sociological level, and related directly to the cross-generational work I’ve done over the last few years. We are about to see the largest generation in history enter retirement - they have already begun, in fact. The aging of the Baby Boomer generation is going to create incredible challenges that will hit us head-on in the next decade. Most of the issues surrounding the Boomers are circumstantial, not qualitative. 

The size of the generation is the primary factor that is resulting in issues like the depletion of Social Security, rising medical costs, a lack of upward mobility in the workforce (and soon to be a large gap in the workforce due to retirement and aging). These issues will become critical in the next decade as younger generations take over leadership in industry and society.

Finally, and this one is specifically for the church, our greatest challenge (and something required for any version of surviving as a vibrant and relevant institution) is to move on from church growth models of ministry to models that focus more on discipleship and love of neighbor. We need to think about going deeper instead of wider. We need to go back to thinking of ourselves as a movement rather than a membership organization. We must look at different ways of supporting and funding ministry. I think we are about to hit the turning point where we can no longer believe the myth that more people in our churches automatically will produce more and better ministry. 

So, that being said, I want to offer what I consider to be the three greatest responses to these challenges, and I believe they are things we can accomplish in the next decade if we pay attention. These ideas are not new, and I don’t want to pretend they are more profound than they are. But sometimes we must be reminded of who we have always been called to be. While I was here at STH, Dr. Parsons assigned us Vincent Donovan’s Chrsitianity Rediscovered, a text that has stuck with me ever since. So my recommendation is that we as the church and society have some things to “rediscover.”

First, our extremism and partisanship requires that we rediscover kindness. I have to tell you, the experiences of the last week or two in Florida have brought this one to light. The prospect of the annihilation of your entire state brings out the best and worst in people, and I felt it in myself as well. The myth of scarcity is powerful, and it causes us to forget that there is enough. It causes our greatest selfishness and self-centeredness to arise - I felt that in myself as I watched videos of Hurricane Irma destroying entire Caribbean nations and my first thoughts were about myself and destruction of my property rather than the thousands of people on those islands. 

At the same time, though, I saw incredible kindness and community begin to emerge as resources were shared, neighbors helped one another prepare, and offers of shelter, safety, and the all-important access to air conditioning was gifted by individuals, churches and businesses all over Florida. There was a powerful sense of compassion and kindness. And it took a catastrophic natural disaster to spark that. 

When we look at the way theology and politics have intermingled to the point that you can’t tell which is which, and the only opinions you may hold are those on one end or the other, and the only way we see one another is “us” versus “them,” or whether people are “in” or “out,” we have no hope of rediscovering kindness. We have to realize there is only us, and there is a lot of gray area, and that’s okay. We’re all in this together. 

This idea really is a little more kum-ba-yah than I normally get, but I do believe it. Kindness as a fruit of the spirit is never wasted, and it’s one of the ways we come together not to bridge the partisan divide but to erase the idea of extremes as the default. 

Second, as we see the transition of the giant Baby Boomer generation out of the workforce and into elderhood, and as younger generations take on greater responsibility and ownership of our economy and our culture, we must rediscover the theological concept of vocation. We must understand all people at all ages and stages to carry with them a vocation - a calling from God - in this understanding, we will develop a more well-rounded and socially responsible culture that values what every individual has to bring to the table.

When we hear the word vocation, we usually think of it as the work we do as young and middle adults. We spend our childhood and youth discovering our vocation, our adulthood doing it, and our old age is the time after vocation. However, this places emphasis only on one stage of life as contributive to society. It devalues children as people “in process,” and it puts even less value on those in the last third of life, painting them as “done” with vocation. 

We have to help retiring Baby Boomers find their vocation in retirement and elderhood. Many of them have defined their lives and worth by their job for decades - discovering they are still essential to an intergenerational society and not simply retired consumers is going to be a key move we must make, especially in the church, in the next decade. 

In addition, we now have generations of young people who will not settle for work that simply pays the bills; they desire work with meaning. And these are the folks who are going to be taking over as Baby Boomers eventually retire. Where many Baby Boomers found their purpose in working to support their family, GenX, Millennials and the generation following are more interested in the work itself having meaning. And while our younger generations are more interested in meaningful work than pay or promotion, they are terrified of their financial future with higher costs of living combined with rising student loan debt. 

We have to help people see their worth and contributive potential throughout life, and the work of intergenerational culture-building is a key part of this. We only see each other as complete and contributive if we know each other. 

This brings me to my third and final response to our challenges, which is that we must rediscover community. This is needed especially in the church, and is a key component of moving out of a church growth mindset and into a discipleship mindset. The need for intergenerational community built on relationship rather than membership is an essential component of the future of the church. 

The generational divide is huge - one of the most significant statistical divides in the last election, in fact. We have more generations than ever contributing to our society at once. It’s the first time in history we have four distinct adult generations in the workforce together. And yet, these generations are as divided as they are different. Our culture doesn’t breed community the way it used to.

Now, in the 21st century, we must develop that community intentionally, and that doesn’t happen through church growth models. More specifically, we have to develop intergenerational community. 

The church is one of the few places left in society where, theoretically, all generations gather together. But the models of the late 20th century focused on dividing and segregating rather than developing intergenerational culture. The church is the perfect place to rediscover community, which at its essence includes rediscovering kindness and vocation as well. 

We don’t know each other intergenerationally, and thus we don’t value each other intergenerationally. Through mentorship, apprenticeship, story sharing, worshiping together and even simply breaking bread together regularly, we create the context in which relationships are built. We rediscover kindness, rediscover vocation, and rediscover community - and I think we will be amazed at how that impacts the even greater challenges we face in the next decade and beyond. 

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Redeeming Culture: Intergenerational Gift-giving
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 The Advent season is upon us, and while liturgically we focus on anticipation in Christ, in our daily lives, many of us are focusing on a different kind of anticipation.

For better or worse, this is the time of year where gift-giving and gift-receiving are a significant part of our culture. For some of us, it brings joy; for others, guilt and obligation. It's easy to rant about consumerism, but while often accurate, it is seldom productive. 

So what if instead of condemning culture, we redeemed it?

I came across this article from Penn State, which appears to have a well-developed intergenerational extension program (more on that to come - I'm doing some research now!). While their program does not seem to have any kind of religious focus, I couldn't help but connect it to our faith communities.

Often when we think about those who are disenfranchised or forgotten generationally, we only think of the young, and while that is true, there's another group that is alongside them, highlighted in the article: "At highest risk are young people in dire need of guidance and nurturing. The prospect of 'going it alone' is difficult for many elders as well; undesired social isolation is often associated with physical and psychological stress and decline."

While young people are in desperate need of life companionship, so are elders. We often make the assumption that adults have it all figured out, and those who have survived to be octogenarians surely are stable and capable of meeting their own needs, or asking for what they need. However, that's often not the case. The communities that supported them in their younger years may have forgotten them, or may not exist anymore. We must be as intentional about inclusion of the older end of the spectrum as we are the younger.

Advent is an ideal time to consider ways to connect these two groups, and why not connect also with something so embedded in our culture? Here are a few ideas:

  1. Set up a "Secret Santa" program between adult Sunday School classes and children's classes or small groups. Have each group create something homemade (for the adults, it may be a baked good; for the children, a coloring page) and offer to one another during a combined Sunday School hour the third or fourth week in Advent. 
  2. Partner with a local assisted living facility or nursing home to have a day of creativity! Bring children to the facility to create crafts and art alongside the residents, and then offer that art as gifts to parents and grandchildren back home. Or, have the group create art for your Advent and Christmas worship space! (If you have a Chrismon tree, this is a great way to create ornaments for it!)
  3. Share favorite Christmas recipes! Have the elders in the congregation partner up with a teenager and teach them to make a favorite family Christmas recipe. If your church has space and a big enough kitchen, this is a great way to also offer a community meal prepared by youth and elders of the congregation!

What are your ideas? How have you used Advent as a chance to connect generations, or to redeem the tradition of gift-giving?

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"What's Next?": Getting What You Asked For
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A few weeks ago, I was on a plane headed to Portland, Oregon, headed to an event where hundreds of young adults are looking at what their next steps are and what God might be calling them to. 

It was the first day of the rest of my life. For the last eight and a half years, I’ve been a camp director. After I graduated from seminary, got married and was commissioned as a United Methodist clergywoman (all of that happened in the span of about a month), my new husband and I moved straight to the coast of North Carolina, where we began a life together at a rustic camp. Before long, both my husband and I were deeply invested in careers in camp and retreat ministry. And the day before I took off to help young people discern their next steps in ministry, I completed my last day of work at a camp and retreat center in central Florida. 

We’ve never known what marriage looks like without camp. We’ve never done life together without camp. This is a new era. Since seminary, my call has been to camping ministry, creating experiences for individuals, families and groups that form faith and build community. 

In that time, the specifics of my day to day work changed nearly day to day. That’s the nature of camp and retreat ministry - no one day looks like another. So needless to say, I’m comfortable with change. I’m comfortable with things being in flux. I’m comfortable with not knowing.

And yet, in the last couple of months, my comfort zone has been challenged. 

When we announced our departure in early September, the first questions were, of course, “What’s next?”

For my husband, that answer was easy. He’s the one who took a new job, and his new job was the primary reason for our move. But this time, for the first time, I didn’t have an answer. I don’t know what’s next. And while there is plenty of excitement about the possibilities, I really do find myself more uncomfortable with this time of unknowing than I had anticipated. 

While my life has always consisted of a variety of projects - curriculum writing, speaking, etc. - for the first time, I don’t have one grounding “thing” that I do. And that’s the first question anyone you meet asks you - “What do you do?” The assumption is that they’re asking about the thing you do 9-5 Monday-Friday (not that camp & retreat ministry has ever been that) that provides money to pay for your daily life. And I don’t have that anymore.

And yet, this is exactly what I asked for. The dream for the last few years has been to work toward a life of freelance work, picking and choosing my projects, being free to partner with a variety of organizations and individuals to create amazing things. And that's exactly what is in front of me. 

I am so thankful for a husband who has a call on his life that perfectly complements mine, and it has every step of the way. I am thankful for a wonderful new home, and a wonderful family who helped make it possible for us to have this wonderful home. I am thankful for friends who, when I say what's next is a little ambiguous, reply "That sounds awesome!" and remind me that this really is what God has been calling me to. 

I am now thankful to be partnered with multiple organizations that are allowing me to follow God's call on my life and preparing me to do it. 

So what's next, you ask? 

You're looking at it. This is my dream and passion and giftedness - helping people do their thing, only better than they could do it alone. That's why my logo is an ampersand symbol (&). It's about connection, bringing things together, collaboration, and so much more. 

A number of wonderful souls spoke into my life over the last decade, helping me take steps I never would have taken alone. And this is another one - I am so excited to fill my days with coaching, consulting, speaking and writing. I'm excited to help you do what you do best, better.

So here we go, folks. It's time to lean in. It's time to do this thing. Thanks for joining me on the journey. Let's see if "getting what I asked for" is everything I dreamed. 

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